These days people treat marriage like its a piece of paper that can be torn up and burnt. It’s a certificate that when you get angry or realize you have differences or meet someone else, you can just “unsign” and pretend it never happened. But that’s not marriage, that’s divorce, and divorce is something I don’t believe in.
In recent months I have watched my grandparents celebrate 50 years together and my parents 25. I have witnessed laughter, loving glances, tender embraces, serious conversations, playful arguments, sadness, heated moments, and many “I’m sorry’s.” As anyone who has ever been in a relationship knows, it takes kindness, patience, forgiveness, and trust to make any relationship not only work, but last.
Many would say that I’ve always been in a hurry to grow up. I was engaged my freshman year of college and married my high school sweetheart at the age of 20. I’ve listened to my friends say things like “I can’t imagine being married right now” and “Kiss your freedom goodbye.” Strangers and acquaintances like to say things like “What?! You’re married?! How old are you?!” and then they proceed to ask questions about education, careers, money, etc. as if all those things have to come before marriage. My favorite comments are the Facebook posts like “All my classmates are getting married and having babies and I’m over here…….”
Each person’s future timeline is going to be different. Some think my life would be easier if I would have waited until I had a degree, a nice job, and a new car before I decided to get married. But I find happiness in starting each day with my best friend, coming home from a bad day and having someone to cheer me up, having someone to share exciting moments with. I’m lucky enough to get to go through life with the support, encouragement, and love of someone who will be by my side through all of the changes, big steps, trials, shortcomings, and adventures.
I love being married and I wouldn’t have wanted to wait another day. “To have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, to love and to cherish, until death do us part” is a promise I know I will keep, and I know this because I chose the right person to make this promise to.